Why I Started This Blog

As I sit here and write this post I think to myself, "With the issues you've had in your marriage and in past relationships, why do you want to write about all of it?" Then I remembered something that happened a few years ago.

It was about 8:00 am on a Saturday morning and I was loafing around on the coach. My children were with their father for a few days, so it was quiet in the house. My cell phone suddenly startled me by ringing. No one ever called me that early in the morning.

I didn't recognize the number appearing in the caller ID, but I answered the phone anyway – not something I usually do. I was pleasantly surprised that it was Karen, a woman my age who I knew through mutual friends. Whenever Karen and I saw one another we always seemed to have a great conversations. Our conversations were usually about spirituality and personal growth. Since Karen's divorce, we also had a number of deep conversations about what we've learned from our past relationships with men.

While I was pleasantly surprised to hear from Karen, I quickly realized that she was a bit distressed. She proceeded to tell me that while she was doing her laundry at the laundry mat that morning she met a man. She told me, "Now I am freaking out because I agreed to go out with him!"

Karen and I talked about her experience. She simply needed someone to help her sort it out so that she could make sense of what just happened. She felt it was such a strange place to meet a man and didn't know if she should trust what was going on or be skeptical.

A few weeks later I saw Karen and asked her how her date went. She smiled and said, "It was very nice and we're still seeing one another." We chatted a bit about the situation and she added, "I called you that morning and gave it to you so I wouldn't have to worry about it. Thanks for letting me do that." I said, "My pleasure."

Karen is still dating the man she met in the laundry matt, they get along very well, and she is happy. I did wonder, though, why she chose to call me. I knew that she was much closer with several of our other mutual friends. I realized that Karen wasn't the only female friend or acquaintance I had that called me to talk about their dating and relationship experiences.

There is something I provide to women that helps them find their way through the dating maze. I'm not sure what it is, but I suspect it has something to do with how I share so openly about my experiences – the good, the bad and the ugly – and what I've learned from those experiences.

So, I write this post to my new blog to share with women my experiences and what I've learned in an effort to help as many women as possible have more fulfilling dating experiences.

Disclaimer: While all of the stories posted in this blog are true, names and identities have been changed in order to respect people's privacy.

~kalkae